Actor and singer Kim Hyun Joong recently sent out a formal written apology to his ex-girlfriend regarding the domestic violence case against him. He admitted to inflicting physical and psychological pain on the person he loved for two years. Hyun Joong pleaded for her forgiveness in the statement on his official website.
My question is… should we (his fans) forgive him?
The answer is not a simple one. Personally, I do not tolerate domestic violence of any kind. Men who hit women should not be praised. In turn, no one should be inflicting pain on one another period… Men or women! In Kim Hyun Joong’s case, we never saw the woman who accused him of abusing her physically, nor do we know her character. Fans only saw images of bruises and word of mouth claims she made to the police.
It’s impossible to take sides in a case which is so cloudy to begin with. Nonetheless, Kim Hyun Joong took responsibly in whatever role he played in the ordeal and formally apologized.
So in Hyun Joong’s case, I say forgive him. In Christianity, you are suppose to forgive others regardless of the reason. Love him or not, unforgiveness is not going to solve anything. It will only make us all feel worse.
For his sake and our own, let us forgive Kim Hyun Joong and move on.